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Understanding Loneliness: Recognizing, Coping, and Seeking Help

In an era where connectivity seems to be at our fingertips, it's ironic that loneliness remains a prevalent issue affecting many individuals.

The implications of loneliness extend far beyond emotional distress, significantly impacting both mental and physical health. Even with the culmination of the COVID-19 pandemic, loneliness persists as a pressing public health concern. Recognizing the signs of loneliness and knowing how to address it are crucial steps in fostering well-being.

Recognizing Loneliness

Dr. Bell Washington defines loneliness as the distress felt when there's a disconnect between the desired and actual level of connection. This disparity can persist even when surrounded by people, highlighting the depth of loneliness beyond superficial interactions. Young adults, in particular, have been significantly affected, with the global pandemic exacerbating feelings of isolation. Despite the prevalence of social media, many struggle to form meaningful connections, amplifying the issue. If you or someone you know is struggling with one or more of the following, they could be feeling deep loneliness and need help:

  1. Difficulty forming deep connections: You may find it challenging to connect with others on a profound level, even if you have friends and family. Your interactions may feel superficial, leaving you unfulfilled and perpetually disconnected.

  2. Lack of close friendships: While you may have friends, none of them may truly understand you or fulfill the role of a "best" friend. Your social circle consists of casual acquaintances rather than individuals who deeply resonate with you.

  3. Persistent sense of isolation: Despite being surrounded by people, you feel overwhelmingly isolated and detached. Whether you're at a party, work, or in public places, you experience a profound disconnection, as if you're enclosed in an impenetrable bubble of solitude.

  4. Negative self-perception: Chronic loneliness often accompanies feelings of self-doubt and inadequacy. You may constantly question your worth, feeling perpetually inadequate and undervalued.

  5. Unreciprocated attempts at connection: When you reach out to others, your efforts may go unnoticed or unappreciated. You may feel unseen and unheard, further exacerbating your sense of loneliness and isolation.

  6. Social exhaustion and burnout: Engaging socially becomes draining and exhausting, leading to feelings of burnout. Continued loneliness can impact various aspects of your health, including sleep patterns, immune function, and dietary habits.

Understanding Social Isolation

Dr. Clark distinguishes between loneliness and social isolation, where the latter entails a lack of social connectedness. While some individuals may feel content in solitude, the pandemic has highlighted the value of social connection for many. The consequences of social isolation and loneliness extend beyond emotional discomfort, posing significant risks to mental and physical health.

Risk Factors for Loneliness

Various factors contribute to an individual's susceptibility to loneliness, including socioeconomic status, mental health disorders, and major life transitions. Marginalized groups such as immigrants and LGBTQ+ individuals often face additional barriers to social connection, such as discrimination and language barriers. These factors underscore the importance of acknowledging biases and fostering inclusivity in combating loneliness. If you fall into one of the below categories or if you know someone who does, watch for signs they are feeling lonely:

  1. Individuals with low incomes

  2. Young adults

  3. Elderly individuals

  4. Adults who reside alone

  5. Individuals dealing with chronic illnesses and disabilities

  6. Immigrants

  7. People who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or questioning (LGBTQ+)

Health Implications

Loneliness and social isolation have been linked to numerous health complications, including heart disease, depression, and premature death. Dr. Clark emphasizes the profound impact of loneliness on cardiovascular health, underscoring the importance of addressing emotional well-being in preventive healthcare. The full list of currently known health implications includes:

  1. Cardiovascular diseases like heart disease and stroke

  2. Type 2 diabetes

  3. Substance use disorders and addiction

  4. Anxiety

  5. Depression

  6. Other mental health conditions

  7. Dementia

  8. Risk of suicidal thoughts and self-harm

  9. Premature death

Coping with Chronic Loneliness

Chronic loneliness manifests through persistent feelings of isolation and disconnection, regardless of external circumstances. Recognizing the signs, such as a lack of intimate connections and feelings of self-doubt, is crucial in addressing chronic loneliness. Engaging in positive social interactions, seeking professional support, and prioritizing self-care are essential strategies in coping with chronic loneliness.

If you are struggling with persistent feelings of loneliness or you think you know someone who is, try the following:

  1. Acknowledge you need help. The first step to recovery from any illness, including loneliness, is acknowledging there's a problem. The hard truth about loneliness is, it's nearly impossible to stop feeling lonely by yourself - you need a support system.

  2. Seek professional help: Reach out to your doctor, therapist, or another healthcare provider. Chronic loneliness often stems from deep-seated negative beliefs about oneself, which can contribute to other health and emotional issues. Don't hesitate to share your feelings with someone who can offer support and guidance.

  3. Engage in positive social activities: Despite the challenges, make an effort to connect with others in healthy ways. Consider joining hobby clubs, workout groups, a running or rucking club, or volunteering opportunities. These activities can not only boost self-esteem but also provide a fulfilling avenue for social interaction.

  4. Prioritize exercise and sunlight: Incorporate regular physical activity into your routine and spend time outdoors in the sunshine. Exercise and sunlight exposure stimulate the release of endorphins and serotonin, neurotransmitters that enhance mood, improve sleep, and promote overall well-being.

  5. Join a support group: If loneliness accompanies other challenges such as substance use, grief, or chronic illness, consider joining a support group. Connecting with others who share similar experiences can provide valuable support and encouragement, helping to alleviate symptoms of chronic loneliness.

Seeking Support

Acknowledging feelings of loneliness is the first step in seeking support. Whether confiding in a trusted friend or reaching out to a healthcare professional, individuals should prioritize their emotional well-being. Dr. Bell Washington encourages individuals to recognize that loneliness is not a sign of weakness and emphasizes the importance of seeking connections to foster emotional resilience.

In my previous marriage, I was isolated and lonely. It happened gradually over a sixteen-year span, and I didn't realize I had slipped into chronic loneliness and depression. When I started having intrusive and suicidal thoughts I hid them from others, ashamed of myself. It wasn't until I almost went through with suicide that I confided in a close friend and she told me about her own struggles with loneliness and depression. She referred me to an excellent therapist who helped me get on the road of emotional healing. I started doing obstacle races and made friends in that community, meet my current and amazing husband (Matt) at a Spartan race in Arizona. My entire life changed because I sought support and help. I don't even want to think about what may have happened if I hadn't.


Loneliness is a multifaceted issue with profound implications for individual health and well-being. By recognizing the signs, understanding the underlying factors, and seeking support when needed, individuals can mitigate the impact of loneliness on their lives. Together, fostering inclusivity and advocating for connectedness are crucial steps in addressing the pervasive issue of loneliness in society. Remember, reaching out for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. If you're struggling with loneliness, don't hesitate to seek support from your physician or mental health professionals. You're not alone in this journey towards emotional well-being. This business exists because all of its owners know what it's like to struggle with loneliness and we are here with a mission to end its devastating effects, one event at a time. Have fun. Do good.

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